2496 days ago

Difference doesn't have to be painful

Ann from Relationship Wellbeing Specialist

Most issues in a relationship are not solvable.
These kinds of problems are generally hard-wired into the relationship by virtue of your respective personalities.
You may be an introvert while they’re an extrovert. Maybe you’re neat and they’re comfortable with messiness. Maybe you’re an atheist and they’re a person of faith.
These things are not likely to change over the lifetime of your marriage. It doesn’t make sense to try and “resolve” them.
Prioritize dialogue instead. Not simply conversation, but an actual effort to understand your partner’s point of view.
That means learning to be curious and compassionate and creative about your perpetual issues.
It means learning to accept that difference doesn’t have to be painful.
It can simply be present.

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5 days ago

Poll: Is it ok to regift something that you have been given?

The Team from Neighbourly.co.nz

🎁 Holiday Gift Chat!

Do you ever regift?
What’s your take on asking for a receipt if a gift doesn’t fit?

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Is it ok to regift something that you have been given?
  • 80.1% Yes! It's better to regift what I don't need
    80.1% Complete
  • 19.9% No. It's the thought and effort that matters
    19.9% Complete
899 votes
3 days ago

Today’s Mind-Bender is the Last of the Year! Can You Guess It Before Everyone Else? 🌟🎁🌲

The Riddler from The Neighbourly Riddler

I dance in the sky with green and gold, a spectacle few are lucky to behold; I’m best seen in the south, a celestial sight—what am I, lighting up the New Zealand night?

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5 days ago

Speed limits around NaeNae

Susan from Naenae

Hi Neighbors, Just a heads up, I have just received a $170 fine for driving at 50km on Rata Street Naenae on a SUNDAY Morning. I wrote to NZTA pointing out and sending in a photo of sign stating that it was 30km on school days between those hours, but they said that the whole of Rata Street and some surrounding streets are 30km 24/7 and have been for over a year. Did I miss this been advised by council? Always good to be informed. Merry Christmas to all