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2492 days ago

Difference doesn't have to be painful

Ann from Relationship Wellbeing Specialist

Most issues in a relationship are not solvable.
These kinds of problems are generally hard-wired into the relationship by virtue of your respective personalities.
You may be an introvert while they’re an extrovert. Maybe you’re neat and they’re comfortable with messiness. Maybe you’re an atheist and they’re a person of faith.
These things are not likely to change over the lifetime of your marriage. It doesn’t make sense to try and “resolve” them.
Prioritize dialogue instead. Not simply conversation, but an actual effort to understand your partner’s point of view.
That means learning to be curious and compassionate and creative about your perpetual issues.
It means learning to accept that difference doesn’t have to be painful.
It can simply be present.

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5 days ago

Neighbourhood Challenge: Who Can Crack This One? ⛓️‍💥❔

The Riddler from The Neighbourly Riddler

What has a head but no brain?

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5 hours ago

Poll: Is it ok to regift something that you have been given?

The Team from Neighbourly.co.nz

🎁 Holiday Gift Chat!

Do you ever regift?
What’s your take on asking for a receipt if a gift doesn’t fit?

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Is it ok to regift something that you have been given?
  • 58.8% Yes! It's better to regift what I don't need
    58.8% Complete
  • 41.2% No. It's the thought and effort that matters
    41.2% Complete
17 votes
28 days ago

Some Choice News!

Kia pai from Sharing the Good Stuff

Many New Zealand gardens aren’t seeing as many monarch butterflies fluttering around their swan plants and flower beds these days — the hungry Asian paper wasp has been taking its toll.

Thanks to people like Alan Baldick, who’s made it his mission to protect the monarch, his neighbours still get to enjoy these beautiful butterflies in their own backyards.

Thinking about planting something to invite more butterflies, bees, and birds into your garden?

Thanks for your mahi, Alan! We hope this brings a smile!

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