Posts by Relationship Wellbeing Specialist
3137 days ago

How to be a great listener

Ann from Relationship Wellbeing Specialist

Listening is an essential part of building love and trust between partners. You can become a great listener - it's an acquired skill. Here's how in three steps.

1. Commit
Shift the focus away from yourself and postpone your own agenda as you tune into your partner’s world. It's not about being interesting, it's about being interested.

2. Attune
It's your job as a listener to be present with your partner. Do not minimize their feelings. Do not try to make them feel better. Your goal is just to understand. You can do this by asking open-ended questions and by avoiding judgment.

3. Witness
A powerful way to be there for your partner is to repeat back what you heard in your own words. For example: “I hear you saying that you really miss the times we used to go out for dinner and a movie. I understand that. I miss those times, too.” Don't problem solve.

Great listening leads to intimate conversation.

Action for this week: Ask your partner, "What are your concerns right now?"

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More messages from your neighbours
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3 days ago

painter

Nick from Petone

Hi anyone know a good painter for small jobs in Hutt Valley area?

8 days ago

Poll: Would you participate in local initiatives aimed at stopping plastic from reaching our oceans?

The Team from Neighbourly.co.nz

Volunteers will be scouring the foreshore, riverbanks, and islands for rubbish on Saturday the 13th as part of the Clean Up the Hutt event.

This initiative helps stop plastic from reaching our oceans and makes our waterways cleaner and safer for everyone.

We want to know: Should this be rolled out across all coastal cities in Aotearoa? And more importantly… would you get involved? 💚

Want the details? The Post has you covered.

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Would you participate in local initiatives aimed at stopping plastic from reaching our oceans?
  • 71.2% Yes!
    71.2% Complete
  • 14.4% Maybe ...
    14.4% Complete
  • 14.4% No.
    14.4% Complete
111 votes
26 days ago

Some Choice News!

Kia pai from Sharing the Good Stuff

Many New Zealand gardens aren’t seeing as many monarch butterflies fluttering around their swan plants and flower beds these days — the hungry Asian paper wasp has been taking its toll.

Thanks to people like Alan Baldick, who’s made it his mission to protect the monarch, his neighbours still get to enjoy these beautiful butterflies in their own backyards.

Thinking about planting something to invite more butterflies, bees, and birds into your garden?

Thanks for your mahi, Alan! We hope this brings a smile!

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