What's the difference between 5:1 and 20:1 relationship?
One of my consistent messages to couples is the 5:1 ratio of positive interactions to negative interactions. But this message needs some unpacking.
5:1, according to our research, is the ratio that couples must reach during a conflict. This prevents couples from being overwhelmed with negativity during an already difficult experience.
20:1, on the other hand, is the ratio you should meet every day. Twenty positive interactions for every single negative interaction!
Sounds hard, right? It isn't if you are attentive and intentional. Start scanning the horizon in your relationship for positive things to appreciate about your partner.
Then tell them. Show them. Be there for them and with them, and turn toward them again and again. That's how you hit 20:1.
Poll: Is it ok to regift something that you have been given?
🎁 Holiday Gift Chat!
Do you ever regift?
What’s your take on asking for a receipt if a gift doesn’t fit?
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79.5% Yes! It's better to regift what I don't need
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20.5% No. It's the thought and effort that matters
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Speed limits around NaeNae
Hi Neighbors, Just a heads up, I have just received a $170 fine for driving at 50km on Rata Street Naenae on a SUNDAY Morning. I wrote to NZTA pointing out and sending in a photo of sign stating that it was 30km on school days between those hours, but they said that the whole of Rata Street and some surrounding streets are 30km 24/7 and have been for over a year. Did I miss this been advised by council? Always good to be informed. Merry Christmas to all
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