Do you want a better relationship in 2018?

Ann from Relationship Wellbeing Specialist

It’s easy to get off track with your New Year’s Resolutions when you’re the only one holding yourself accountable.
If you’re in a relationship, though, you have a leg up: When you set goals as a couple, you’re far more likely to keep each other focused on achieving them.

What are the best types of resolutions to make with your partner?
Below, marriage therapists and counsellors share seven resolutions that could make your relationship happier and healthier in 2018.

1. We’ll commit to small, measurable changes in our behaviour
“Ask your partner if they’d be willing to test something out with you. Say that you’d like your partner to name something in everyday life they’d like you to change. And you’ll do the same. Start small.

2.We’ll break up with our iPhones
 
“Divorce your phones this year. When you’re spending quality time together, park your phones at the door. Better still, shut them off when you’re spending couple or family time.

3. We’ll commit to becoming better people for each other

This resolution has you both focus your attention on what you can give to your partner.

4. We’ll treat each other as kindly as we treat our friends

Couples often treat their friends ― or even much more peripheral people in their lives ― with more kindness than they do their partners. You may give your friend the benefit of the doubt without hesitation. Do you extend that to your partner?

5. We’ll continue to share stories from our past

“Make a point to swap stories about your past: When you first dated, you were excited to share and hear stories about each other because it feels good to be known and to really understand one another. But then the focus likely turned to the day-to-day stressors and you stopped sharing stories

6. When we disagree, we’ll take turns talking and actually listen

Listening doesn’t necessarily mean agreeing. The active listening technique is so worthwhile because it fosters emotional intimacy. When most spouses really want is not to win an argument, but to feel understood.

7. We’ll upgrade date night
Commit to trying new things (new restaurants, new weekend activities, new vacation destinations, etc.), and doing so often.